Buying your first toy can be an exciting yet frustrating experience. I know this because I was in the same situation not long ago. I admit, I'm not even sure what kind of sex toy I should be looking for. Finally, I bought some "first toys" before deciding on what I could proudly call "my first toys".
Through these experiences, I have, unsurprisingly, gained some knowledge about selective toys. Whether you're shopping for vibrators, dildos, or anything in between, here's a quick guide to choosing the best sex toy for you (so you don't waste as much time and money as I did):
1. Check the Physical Security TAB.
Be sure to follow the rules of thumb for body safe materials, including non-porous silicone, glass, and wood. While there are many truly safe toys on the market, there are also many counterfeit ones. Do some extra research to make sure it's really safe for the body. Toy manufacturers have realized that using physically safe materials in toys is becoming more and more popular, which is why they have started branding their materials as "safe" when in fact they are not.
2. Take the time to do your research
It's all about you! Don't rush to decide on the first toy you see. Of course, there are some famous classics, such as the rabbit vibrator from Sex and the City. While they remain popular, there is no one-size-fits-all "silver bullet" (see What Did I Do?).
G-spot toys? A docking plug? Suction vibrator? Think about what turns you on and where you feel it in your body. However, if something is fun, explore it! Don't be afraid to explore different feelings and impulses. Trust me, out of all the choices, there's always one that makes you sing.
3. There's no need to look like a jerk
I'm not saying you should stay away from dicks or anything like that. Go ahead -- if you like, be my guest. But feel free to explore design-centric sex toys, unlike fleshy accessories. These toys are designed with anatomy in mind and are usually more comfortable.
4. Invest in a good lube
Lubricants are great, whether you're a beginner or an expert in sex toys. It reduces friction, making it a smoother, more enjoyable experience. I highly recommend water-based lube because it won't interfere with the material of the sex toy. The old "rule of thumb" was that silicone oil would break down silicone toys. But in my experience, I've found that silicone lubricants are fine as long as your toys are 100% silicone and not doped with other materials (which is common in cheap sex toys). As always, be sure to field test beforehand!
5. Consult a sex toy blogger
I can't stress this enough! There are plenty of well-informed people there to evaluate sex toys so you can make an informed decision about your next purchase. When I was looking for a pluggable toy, I was overwhelmed with options. You should choose a blogger who is also sexually active, impartial and passionate about human sexual issues. I encourage you to visit her! All bloggers have their own style and talent, so find out who you're interested in (yes, pun intended).
The key is to keep exploring yourself and, most importantly, have fun! Your first vibrator should not only surprise you, but make you proud to own it.