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One reason some couples have sex early in a relationship is that they want to know if they are sexually suitable. Sex is an important part of most, but not all, relationships. So it's often seen as a red flag when a partner is out of sync in bed to begin with.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with wanting to establish sexual compatibility early in a relationship. This is certainly beneficial, especially if you find that you have completely different and non-overlapping sexual interests. However, a common mistake people make when doing this is to think that once compatibility is established, they can live well. In other words, if you start having great, exciting sex, you're going to keep having great, exciting sex, right?
That's why this idea is completely wrong.
First, early in a relationship, people are in the throes of passion. Sex can be exciting because it is novel for everyone involved. Plus, passion makes it all the more intense. So, when you're passionate, you have similar interests, and it's easy to get along well.
However, passion is often short-lived, usually lasting only a few months or years. But that doesn't mean the passion must die or disappear after that. It just takes some work to maintain. That's why it's crucial to introduce freshness to keep the excitement alive. Constantly trying new and different things in bed (or wherever you like to have sex) is an effective way to stay excited.
In light of this, it is important to ask yourself more than simply "Is your sex life good?" You should also ask your partner if they are open to trying new things. If they don't want to intrude on your bedroom life once in a while, that could be a sign that it's harder to keep the spark alive once the initial passion starts to fade.
Second, people's need for sex will change with the development of life. For example, I've written before about how our sexual fantasies seem to change as we get older -- sometimes in different ways for different people. So what excites you now may not be what excites you 10, 20, 30 years from now. So is your partner.
Similarly, when it comes to sex, what feels good and what feels pleasant (and what is physically possible, practical, and comfortable) can change over time due to age-related changes in the body, chronic illness or disability, and other factors. What people want from sex (e.g., physical release, emotional intimacy) also changes.
Therefore, it is important to avoid viewing sexual compatibility as a one-time thing. If you set it, you won't do it again. In other words, you don't just set it and forget it. So forget about establishing sexual compatibility. Instead, we should consider maintaining gender harmony.
This means that partners should check in on each other's sex lives regularly. Do you want something different? Do you want to have sex differently than you used to? Have your fantasies changed? Does something that used to feel good no longer work for you?
Maintaining lasting harmony takes a little effort and constant dialogue. It's not something you can set and forget. And the sooner you start working on harmony, the sooner you can reap the benefits and keep the passion alive.